There is finally a sold sticker in front of our house! My husband and I were running around and high fiving each other. It is not that we are so thrilled to leave this home we have loved, it is that it takes so much stress out of our lives. Knowing it is sold means not having to worry that we won’t sell it in time to pay for our new home. It means no more strangers wondering through our house every weekend, and I don’t have to clean like a madwoman. It is just such a relief.
My 11 year old does quite share our relief and joy, our 8 year old isn’t so happy either although she keeps that more to herself, and then there is Adam age 5 who doesn’t seem to care at all. I am not sure he really realises that one day we won’t be living here. He see’s it all as a great big adventure and I can only hope he continues to be so laid back about it.
They came home from school to see the sold sign and Aspen pretended not to notice, I think she thought if she ignored it that it would somehow make it not true! I had to have a chat with her, she then decided she wanted to kick the sign. I guess it is hard being 11 and your parents making decisions that greatly affect your life and yet you have no say or input in that decision at all.
Today she came home to see the we had started packing up the office shelves, our big book collection was all boxed up. She proceeded to tell us that she was not very happy with the office!
It is hard as a parent trying to make the right decisions not only for yourselves, but for 3 very different children. We are responsible for their security and happiness and it is not always easy deciding what is best. Will moving affect their sense of security, or is it good to get them used to change, to build their resilience? How often is it acceptable to move home? Does it depend on the individual child?
I hate seeing Aspen upset, seeing her world confused and uncertain. At the same time she is a big part of why we are making this decision, she will be closer to her friends and it will mean extra time at home to study, play and rest. No more long drives for all of us and the ease of friends being able to pop in. Yes we are taking them and us out of our comfort zone and out of a home we love, but my gut keeps telling me that this is the right decision for all of us.
I guess that is the thing with change, we are heading into the unknown. There is no guarantee that we are making the right decision for all five of us, we can only go with our intuition and trust that we will remain a happy family no matter where we live.
What about you, have you made a move recently? Have you had to make decisions that where based solely on your gut feeling? Love to hear your thoughts, comment below or Tweet me @macglanville.
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12 comments
Yey to being sold. I can totally understand your 11 year old – such a big change. We too are selling up, yet to get the sold sign but it has only been two weeks, but luckily my two aren’t old enough to really understand or bother #mummyandus xx
It is such a big thing moving home. I think that it is genuinely tough for kids to have no control over such big things in their lives but as parents we are not there to make them happy all the time but make the best choices we can. It is not easy to do though is it!
Congratulations! It’s always hard moving as a child. We moved countries when I was 10 and I it was hard leaving the comfort of our old family home. But they’ll love their new house so don’t worry 🙂 #mummyandus
Ah that is big news. I think the older the child gets the harder it is! I hope in time they get used to it. YOu have to follow your gut though and go with it. Will work out and is a new adventure. Thanks for hosting xxx #mummyandus
Congratulations on the sale, Mac. I’m sure you know that children are resilient. As an army brat we moved cities and schools every 2 years and survived. It taught me to mix with various kind of people and be more adaptable! Good luck with your new home!
Congratulations on selling your house! I am sure that the move will be good for you all but it will take some time getting over the nervousness! Good luck. #Mummy&us
Kristen
First off, congratulations on selling your home! I’m so happy for you! I’m sending positive thoughts your way for Aspen. Like you said, moving is a huge change for a child. I do think she will adjust and be very happy with the convenience of having her friends nearby. #Mummyandus
A move is a big deal for everyone, especially kids. I hope it goes smoothly for you – I’m sure you will all settle great in your new home. Thanks so much for hosting #MummyAndUs x
Well done! I totally understand your anxiety. It took us over a year to move and I was 7 months pregnant by the time we did. Unfortunately, even when we sold it wasn’t the end – as we sold 4 times in the end because buyers kept pulling out. Fingers crossed your buyer sticks it out until keys are exchanged. Moving house is so stressful and its hard not to let it rub off on the kids. #mummyandus
I was an Air Force brat and we moved a lot, even in the same town. I was pretty resilient, and even though I hated leaving friends behind, I always made new friends. I loved the newness of each experience too. I have a feeling your kids will adapt and love the move when they get settled in. And congratulations on selling your house. Seems like just yesterday you were deciding to sell!
We moved around a lot when hubby was still in the military. Thankfully the kids were too small to really be affected by it and they were just caught up in the excitement of the adventure.
Fast forward to two years ago. We needed more space and moved 10 km down the road…far enough to require the youngest kids to change schools. They were not happy about it at all. It probably took almost a year for them to feel settled…and they still miss the old house. I know we did the right thing, but it was hard to see them unhappy, even if only for a short time.
Best of luck with your move, hope everyone settles in well!
Moving home, how exciting! I have always found change to be a bit of a thrill, making new connections, discovering new opportunities in a different location. We moved internationally when my boys were 2 and 4 years old, they didn’t really comprehend the magnitude of that move. But subsequently we lived in 4 different states in 4 years, and that meant some changes in schooling for my eldest. I didn’t really frett about those changes, because I believe that children become resilient, they learn to adapt and go-with-the-flow when they are exposed to change. I have been in the same place now for 7 years, and I miss the buzz of moving! Good luck, I’m just a little bit jealous lol!!
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