One of the scariest moments as a parent is when our kids are sick. Even if it is just a mild fever we worry, our thoughts wander to places we don’t want them to go. We try to shut it out, but deep down we worry that it could be something serious. We see and hear about seriously ill children all the time and every time we do we hope and pray that nothing like that will happen to our own children.
Last week a student at my children’s school sadly lost his battle for life, he was diagnosed in grade 2 with a brain tumour. He fought the odds and survived much longer than anyone thought possible, still his loss is felt deeply by many students and staff members at our school. My brothers and sister in law’s niece is also battling cancer. It just brings the reality of the situation so close to home.
This week Aspen had to see a neurologist at Melbourne’s Royal Children’s Hospital because she has been suffering with pain in her head, dizziness, nausea and some double vision. I am not going to lie, it was hard taking her in for her appointment and not fearing the worst. Even the neurologist said that it is the first thing a parent fears ‘the worst’. And he is right, my mind went there, what if Aspen is seriously ill?
Thankfully Aspen’s brain scans showed no tumour. I am so relieved to say we came out with a diagnoses of migraines. Now migraines are bad enough, but I just feel so grateful that my daughter is healthy. I almost feel guilty writing that though. So many children are diagnosed daily with serious and life threatening illness. I am so relieved Aspen is not one of them, but it breaks my heart than any child has to go through that, and that any parent has to see their child suffer.
Aspen’s headaches have been affecting her on and off for a couple of years, but this year they got worse and it forced us to seek a doctors opinion. The doctor did a neurological exam and was immediately concerned, we were rushed for an MRI. Watching your child have this done is not what any parent wants to do, but she was so brave about it all. Thankfully this test came back normal, what a huge relief! Huge! We then had to wait a couple of months to see the numerologist at the Royal Children Hospital.
The Royal Children’s Hospital in Melbourne was great. They were so lovely from the minute we entered the beautiful new building. You basically check in and then they take your phone number and message you when the doctors ready, which means if you have a long wait you can sit at one of the coffee shops or look at the almighty fish aquarium. Luckily we didn’t have to wait long, she was firstly weighed and measured by a nurse and then we went straight in to see the specialist. He was great with her and explained in detail what it means to have migraines and just how many people suffer from migraines. He explained that they are less common before puberty and much more common after, she unfortunately is in the less common group. He said she will most likely suffer from migraines until her early 30’s. Not nice news!
He gave us lots of advice and also recommended seeing a psychologist to help learn how to manage stress levels as stress makes it far worse. And heading into teenage years and high school in a year and a half is bound to raise the stress levels in any child.
I’m am relieved she doesn’t have anything life threatening, but it is still awful knowing she will suffer this pain for many years to come. It is never easy seeing our children in any pain. Still I feel fortunate, visiting the children’s hospital you realise that no matter how done up it is, it is not somewhere you want to visit very often and hopefully never again.
Thanks for joining me, love Mackenzie xx
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Oh my goodness, how terribly tragic!! You must have been so very worried going for that appointment! I’m so glad to hear that it is ‘just’ migraine. I say ‘just’ but am fully aware that there is no ‘just’ about migraine! I have hemiplagic migraine it’shideous but in no way life threatening! I hope this week is a little lighter for you all xx #mummyandus
I’m so glad everything was ok on the MRI. I too would be so scared and I do worry all the time when they are poorly! #mummyandme xx
Thank you so much for your thoughts, yes it was a huge relief xx
#mummyandus – sorry xx
I am glad it is not life threatening but you are so right that it is tough to see your children suffer. What we can teach them though is how to approach adversity. We can show how to keep searching and trying things rather than feeling defeated. Getting help with stress levels is a great thing to do. It is a life skill that will help through so many of life’s challenges. Wishing your daughter and you all the best. Kirsten
Thanks Kirsten, yes I think it will help her through many things in her life to develop these skills so young xx
Oh, wow, sorry to hear all of that is going on on with Aspen! It’s terrifying when something is going on with your kids. I’m glad there was no tumor, and I hope that the migraines will be easily managed. Hugs to you, Momma!
I’m so sorry about the child who passed away from school. That must have been terrifying going in for scans with that knowledge! Thank goodness your daughter’s scanned turned out ok. Migraines are awful to deal with but like you said, thankfully it’s not life threatening. Thanks so much for hosting #mummyandus x
Thank you so much for your kind hearted words xx
I’m really sorry to read this, it must have been such a huge worry for you taking your child for a scan after such a horrid shock at school! I am so glad all was fine and I hope you find a good way to manage the migraines. #mummyandus
Oh my goodness, you must’ve been really worried about Aspen these last few years… Glad it’s nothing serious but anything involving the head isn’t to be taken lightly.
xo
Phew I’m glad everything worked out for you. It does make your stomach turn the worry. You can live happily in that bubble of “it wont happen to me” until it effects people you know. My heart goes out to the family of the little boy in your school.
I’m so glad your daughter doesn’t have anything life-threatening! I ready your descriptions with wide eyes, so I can only imagine how worried you must have been. I’m so sorry to hear that the migraines are a more-or-less permanent feature and hope you find some therapies that help her. #mummy&us
Hi Mac, I can literally feel your relief washing over me as I read your post! It’s such a scary feeling to have to face your worst fears, & gives you a great appreciation when they are not realised! The loss of a child at school is a stark reminder that bad things do happen randomly and it’s a nightmare none of us would wish to be a part of. Look after each other x #mummy&us
Oh no that is so hard! I cannot imagine going through that with my kids. Thank goodness they didn’t find anything seriously wrong. I am so sorry that she has to suffer from migraines though. I have had a few in my life and they are horrid. I hope the best for her. #mummy&us
Kristen
Gosh, how scary for you and such sadness for the others. My eldest Charlie suffers with regular headaches too, so I can totally relate. She’s had blood tests that have come back clear, but you still worry for them xxx #Mummy&Us
You are right. As a parent it is a situation we all dread and nothing can prepare you for it. I hope the family have the support they need to get through this awful time.
I am glad that you and your daughter have peace of mind, and whilst not great news at least you now have treatment options. I got diagnosed with epilepsy in my 30’s. I don’t like it, but I am grateful that that is all it is. Once you know what something is and the shock is over, you can learnt to deal with it. And then you can take some comfort that it is something that whilst not nice, it is at least not life threatening. All the best. Sending hugs xx #mummyandus
I am so glad that Aspen is well, although I hope you will all find a way to manage the pain as best as you can. Migraines are awful. Oliver was taken into A&E a couple of months ago and had to have a nebulizer, it was awful I really don’t know how parents cope when children are seriously poorly.
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Becky xx
So sad to hear the news about the child that died with the brain tumour. It really puts things in perspective.
Glad your own child doesn’t have anything sinister going on. You sound like you got some great advice on migraines. You’d be surprised these days how many children present with symptoms of migraines (though it’s so important to have that as a diagnosis of exclusion, and made sure that brain tumour is ruled out by a doctor, by history and exam or by MRI). There are a lot of stresses that we don’t realise children go through and that affect them without them even realising. One of my consultants says the sleep in the most important factor in preventing migraine, always a hard one to perfect in kids, but well worth it if it can stop migraines. #twinklytuesday
Its never nice when your kids are ill especially when they have to have tests done in hospital. All the waiting around is so nerve wracking. Both of mine have/ had suspected heart problems and underwent intrusive tests, it was horrible. Glad all went well though. #mummyandus
I’m so glad everything came back fine! I can only imagine how scary it must have been. #TwinklyTuesday
It must have been so scary going to the appointment, I’m glad its nothing serious, but I hope you can find a way to help the migraines. #twinkytuesday
Our kids have no idea how we worry for them! Thank goodness it wasn’t a tumor. Although migranes aren’t a tea party either.
Thanks Marie x
That is so so sad about the student in your sons class. I remember getting a letter home from Zach’s nursery informing us that one of the toddlers had died. That was absolutely horrendous to read and I immediately felt so much grief for his parents. No parent should have to deal with anything of the sort. Whilst I am not glad that Aspen has migraines, I am glad that she has got a diagnosis that isn’t in any way life changing. I was one of the ones that got migraines when I hit puberty. They lasted a few years and were horrendous so I know exactly how she feels. Fingers crossed she gets used to dealing with it. All I could do was go to bed and sleep it off! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
Thank you for your thoughts and advice xx
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