Pretending to be something you are not is exhausting, it will suck the energy and light right out of you. It will leave you feeling inadequate, tired and unworthy of true inner happiness.
A year ago I wasn’t truly happy, I was happy enough, but I was tired of not reaching my potential. Ask me back then what made me happy and I would answer my family and friends. But ask me now what makes me happy and I will answer ‘being me‘. Now that might sound self obsessed, but it is just honesty. Being anything less than who you are really meant to be is a waste of your potential. And that is not about being self obsessed, it is about being the best person you can be in order to make people around you happier too.
My hubby doesn’t need half of me, he needs all of me, just as my children do, they deserve to have the best version of myself showing up every day, and if I am not happy then they are not getting the best of me.
We all have our own strengths, our own passions, our own inner light that needs and deserves to shine. Being anything less than our own truth is not only letting ourselves down, but it is letting everyone around us down as well. The happier we are and the brighter we shine, the more we can offer those around us, they get the best of us.
So how can you achieve this? How can you get more comfortable with the real you?
- Instead of telling yourself that you are fine with the status quo start telling yourself the truth! Think about what it is you really want from your life, imagine anything is possible and be honest with yourself. Dig deep!
- Stop telling everyone around you that you are fine if you really are not. Be honest and say you need some support.
- Don’t allow toxic people to bring you down. Separate yourself from people and situations that put down your dreams.
- Show people the real you, allow yourself to be vulnerable, allowing yourself to show some weakness can actually show people your strength.
- Don’t be fake, don’t lie to yourself about who you are. Separate your true self from the fake self you may have been presenting to the world. Allow the real you to shine through.
- Stop putting on an act, it will wear you down.
- Embrace honesty and treat yourself with respect!
The more you put on a facade the more you loose touch with who you really are, you miss out on your truth and other people miss out on getting to know the real you. For me happiness is being comfortable with who I really am. This is no way means thinking I am perfect, it is about embracing my so called flaws and loving myself anyway. It is time to let the world, (or at least those close to you), to get to know the real you. Show them your flaws, your vulnerabilities and show them your strength and beauty. Isn’t it time you stop faking confidence and actually embrace it? Isn’t it your time to shine? Isn’t it time to find out what happiness really means to you?
Thanks for joining me, love Mackenzie xx
Welcome to Friday Reflections.
This weeks writing prompts are as follows. 7 August 2015
- Reflect on what you were doing this time last year
- What is the most outrageous thing you’ve ever done?
- What makes you happy?
- Reflect on the following quote ”Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” – Maya Angelo
Please remember to comment on the hosts posts and 2 others. Share the love. Grab our badge below to display on your post.
6 comments
Since I came to Belgium, I started suffocating myself. Because nothing I did was right, I literally “killed” myself and became a shadow of who I really am.
Things got a little better, but I know there is a lot I can improve. Good will be the day when the person I am back home and the one I am here are exactly the same.
I have a long road ahead of me…
Thank you for the inspiration.
You inspired me this week, so thank you
Oh what a great post and spot on Mackenzie. If you aren’t happy how can you be the best for your partner and family ? I agree with all you have written especially about telling every you are fine. I did not cope well with early retirement which I took because my husband was retired. It has taken almost three years but I am happy now. I have a great life and my blog! I will never be a famous author but if I can encourage others to be the best that can be my job is done. Thanks for a lovely post and #fridayreflections
Oh Sue I think you are awesome and can do anything you put your mind to, even being a famous author. I would buy your book!
Happiness is being me, myself, indeed. Absolutely agree with you. You know what, I always tell my hubby that he must make sure that I am happy for the sake of his own happiness. 🙂 And he agrees seeing how upside down our life becomes when I am not happy. 🙂 Profound thought, Mackenzie.
What an inspiring reflection post, Mackenzie! Focusing on my happiness came to me only over the past few years. Often we feel guilty to indulge ourselves and place ourselves on priority. Experience is a great teacher!
Thank you for a fabulous read. Loved it! I am resuming my Friday Reflections posts from this week on!
Happy weekend to you. Love, Vidya
Comments are closed.