Who am I?
A writer who is at a loss for words to answer such a complex question, when it feels the possibilities are infinite. We are so complex, shifting, evolving, learning…. in a state of constant change. Perhaps even confusion and trying to figure out who we once were, who we are in this moment and where we wish to go from here?
The irony is not lost on me that although words are what comes most naturally to me, like breathing, I really don’t know where to start, or even exactly what I want to say.
I have openly spoken on a couple of occasions in blog posts about my true first name not being Mackenzie. You may or may not have read these blogs, if you have then you will already be aware that I have struggled with wanting to use my name (most recently I wrote A Rose By Any Other Name), which in writing made me come to some realisations. The main one being that it is not about my name, it is about personal empowerment. Let me explain.
The reason I use a pseudonym is because of something that dramatically changed my life, changed me, and made my name something I feared to share. I guess like I said in that previous post I feel controlled to some degree and I want to claim my name because I am tired of having fear run my present and do not want it to control my future!
I have also mentioned in previous posts that Living Fearlessly Authentic is something that I encourage, and promote and although I have been nothing but myself on this blog, I still feel like I am not being Authentic enough when I am scared to use my own name.
I am tired of letting fear control me.
I am angry at myself, yet I also understand my choices and so I try to be gentle with my soul too. I think part of my soul was broken and I need to nurture that part of me and be understanding that I made choices based upon fighting for my life.
I feel afraid, but I also feel the time is now. I have also openly told you before that my name is Kylie, yet I have not changed anything on social media to represent this, everything is @macglanville and I still sign off every blog post with Mac or Mackenzie.
I am going to spend some time changing this. I am nervous, but empowered.
I feel that this change may impact my following as right now you can Google my pseudonym and plenty pops up, but I am not doing this for professional reasons, and my blog has never been about followers. My blog has been a journey for me of self discovery, healing, and trying to inspire others through my personal reflections to be true to themselves.
When I receive emails, comments, or insta messages saying that I have made a positive difference to someones life I know that this blog is making a difference. At times I have struggled to continue (mainly due to my anxiety), and yet you always inspire me to keep going because you let me know that my writing can make a difference. Early on I started taking some job opportunities through my blog, but I knew that wasn’t what I wanted for this space. I want this blog to be somewhere you can come and drink a cuppa and feel relaxed or inspired. I want it to be a space where you feel you can be honest. I want it to make a difference to those of you that are needing a change or to feel more authentic, and for myself I want it to continue to be a place where I can just write honestly from my heart.
I want to truly encompass Living Fearlessly Authentic.
So if you follow me on social media expect to see a change in my Instagram name and Twitter.
Thanks for letting me ramble on, I guess somehow the words come if I’m patient with myself.
So signing off a little different today.
Thanks for reading and reflecting with me, love, Kylie xx
20 comments
Good to meet you … Kylie!! Like you say, kind of, a rose or a Mackenzie or a Kylie by any other name … whatever you are comfortable with!
Thanks for your support!
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That actually means more than you know!
Well Done for taking this big step for you, Kylie! #ABloggingGoodTime
Well Done for taking this big step for you, Kylie! #ABloggingGoodTime
I hope your fear is baseless. Good luck and remmeber to call on your troops (us) if you need support or people to rally around you. #Stayclassymama
Thank you so much!
Good for you and taking the mask off helps you relax and just go with the flow X #ablogginggoodtime
Such a beautiful and honest post. Very nice. Nice to meet you and thanks for being so honest. #blogginggoodtime
Wow I can clearly see that this was a big step for you….Kylie(!) So well done. I hope it was liberating to let go of the fear. I totally get that what might seem like a small and trivial thing to one person can be a mammoth task to somebody else. You couldn’t have put it better when you said that if you are patient enough with yourself then the words will come out. It’s so true. I did notice during the week that your twitter name had changed and now I understand. So looking forward to getting to know you all over again Kylie x ! #ablogginggoodtime
Thank you this means so much!
congrats on taking a stand for yourself. i had no idea you had a different name but your message remains the same which is brilliant. always be kind to yourself. cheers sherry
Thank you so very much xx
congrats on taking a stand for yourself. i had no idea you had a different name but your message remains the same which is brilliant. always be kind to yourself. cheers sherry
Oh congratulations my love. I do remember reading a while ago that your name is Kylie – a lovely name indeed. This has clearly been a big step for you and I hope there has been some relief and comfort in having made that decision and you are feeling confident about moving forward. I have always loved the spirit of your writing and will continue to pop over for a read with a cuppa. Much love. Jo x
Our name is a crucial part of our identity so taking an assumed name is a way of feeling in control and a way of protection and deflection. Thanks for linking up with #stayclassymama
it really was, thank you
What a huge , brave decision!!!
You know I’m a huge fan of your writing and I look forward to seeing where this takes you next
Hello Kylie!! I do understand what you mean about names though. I grew up hating my name because of who gave me the name and I just never really liked it. As I’ve gotten older though, I learned to really embrace my name. I am still searching for a catchy way to use it as an aspiring author but I’m also not too worried about that. Michelle is my name. It is me and I am it. So here’s to you Kylie for taking that huge step and #livingfearlesslyauthentic Thanks so much for hosting #ABloggingGoodTime
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