“Following your dreams, your passions is like fighting against life, it is easier to say that there is no time, there are too many things that need to be done today, fight this, fight this hard, because a life without dreams or passions can not be a life of fulfilment, fight for your inner self, fight for the freedom to be heard, fight to be you”
These weren’t always the words or motto I lived by. I pretty much lived in my comfort zone, content enough to be me, to be daughter, wife, mum, friend, but not daring to dig any deeper. Not trying to figure out what I really wanted for me. After all I didn’t want to be selfish, I didn’t want to stand in the spotlight saying “look at me, pay attention to me“. I didn’t even really want to pay attention to myself. Maybe in a way I was scared that if I tried to ‘create the life I wanted’ I would fail. Safer to stay exactly where I was and besides who has time to devote to ‘creating their ideal life’? I was busy, life is demanding with 3 kids, life is demanding even without kids, there is enough going on without trying to fit in ‘me time’ or time to entertain my own passions.
Well at least I thought so . . . But you know what I was wrong. Yes wrong. Spending some time on making myself happy doesn’t make me the selfish person I thought it might. In fact it is quite the opposite. How? Well when you are happy in your own skin and happy with your life the effect flows on. Really? Yes absolutely it really does. The more I delved into who I am, who I want to be, and what I am passionate about, the more I had of myself to give others.
Life is busy, but there is always room to fit in some time to discover who you really are, and what you really want. Even though your schedule might seem to have no space in it for ‘finding yourself‘ or ‘doing things you enjoy‘ you have to find that time! No matter what, you have to fight for yourself. No one else can do it for you, you have to make the decision that you are worth it!
It is OK to be scared, to be afraid of change, of taking a chance. You may even come up against resistance from others, not everyone is happy when you change, I know it is horrible, but some people like to hold others back so they can feel better about themselves. Don’t let people hold you back. Tell them how you feel, tell them you would love there support. Let people know that just because you are following you goals that they still fit into your life, in fact you will be an even better addition to their lives because you will be more fulfilled and happy. Be an inspiration for others. I know as a mum it wasn’t easy for me to go back to writing, my daughter was worried I wouldn’t have time for her the way I had before. I assured her I will always have time for her, and now I can see how much I have inspired her to show her creative side. I love that I am being a role model to my children letting them know that you can walk your own path in life.
I love this quote by George Bernard Shaw
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
So let this become your motto and start creating the life you deserve, it is time to fight for you and follow your own path.
Thanks for joining me, love Mackenzie xx
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I love this Mackenzie! You ARE an inspiration for others. A wise woman once told me when my children were young that I couldn’t give anything from a cup that was empty. She always encouraged me to “fill my cup” that I might then have the ability to give to others. Great reminder!
I have been working with a Life Coach and it has been an experience of recreating myself and reconnecting with my Path again.
Life is beautiful and we are the means of this beauty.
Thank you ladies for the fabulous party. I’m glad to join today.
I am so happy that you are joining us this week, and so glad you are reconnecting with your path
it’s so important not to lose ourselves in our families and being all things to all people. There is an element of this that is part of being a woman, but we need to care enough about ourselves to carve out a little place and time to do what we love (it took me a lot longer to figure that out than you did!)
thanks Leanne, as long as we figure it out I guess that is the most important thing xx
What a fantastic post. You are absolutely right, it is important to fight for yourself. I’m glad that you have made the decision to follow your passions. You write so beautifully so it is a gift to the world to have you sharing yourself in that way 🙂
what a lovely comment, thank you so much!
It’s so easy to fall into that being all things to all people mentality, it isn’t so easy to break free from it. Finding time for ourselves is so difficult at times and yet so important! Thank you for the reminder xx
you’re welcome, we all need to remember ourselves in this busy life xx
So important to follow your heart and your post is inspiring! Good one there!
I love that quote in the end. I’m so sick of people trying to ‘find themselves’…I ‘d rather spend time creating myself. Great post Mac! 🙂
Thanks so much
That quote at the end is great! I love it, and the whole post.
Thanks for linking up with #justanotherlinky
This is so true and great post! Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx
This is such a lovely post, Mac. 🙂
Thanks! I needed that pep talk.
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