Treating ourselves with love and respect doesn’t always come easily, even knowing that if we don’t fill our own self -love cup first it can make it harder to give to others, we still continue to often put everyone else first. When we don’t give to ourselves we don’t have things to give to others because we are exhausted, empty and burnt out, but it isn’t just about having nothing to give to others. It is also about what we are attracting into our lives.
Self-love is so important when it comes to living well in every part of our life. When we have self respect we attract that back, and when we have self-love we invite more love into our lives. Simply put, have self-love and you will attract people who who will love and respect you into your life. How we feel about ourselves affects the partners we attract, and even the friends and jobs we attract.
The problem is we don’t often take the time to truly check in with how we are treating ourselves. We need to stop making excuses and do a self-love audit! We need to move through our days more mindfully, and check in with ourselves more often. Here are some tips that you may find helpful.
- check in with yourself throughout the day. Look at how many positive things you have thought about yourself compared to how many negative things you have thought, or said to yourself today.
- be mindful of the way you are allowing others to speak to you throughout the day.
- take the time to use some positive affirmations throughout your day.
- get back to nature, take a walk, smell fresh flowers, or try Earthing.
- try and catch yourself making negative remarks about yourself, or others and turn them into something positive.
- treat yourself to massage, a meditation session, a facial, or if you can book a weekend getaway.
- start a hobby that you have longed to do for ages and have been putting off.
- learn to say no! And not feel guilty about needing to put yourself first.
- forgive yourself for things that happened in the past.
- download a mindfulness app.
Today is the perfect day to start that self-love audit, no more excuses, it is time to search your soul for what truly makes you happy, and time to carve out some time to fill up you self-love cup!
Let me know how you go.
Mac xx
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I have trouble making the distinction between self-love and selfish. For the example, everyone is at school and work, I’m at home for an hour. I want to sit in the beanbag and finish my book for book club, but instead I do a load of washing and vacuum. Any tips?????
You need to first understand selfish is not a ‘dirty’ word. Considering yourself is a great habit to get into. When we don’t allow ourselves little periods of rest, or time to read or do something we enjoy then we become resentful and are less able to tolerate what the rest of the day will bring. It is nicer to sit and read and feel refreshed and happy once the kids come home, than to feel burnt out and be in a resentful mood. We are also setting an example to our children about self care. We want them to grow up and know how to treat themselves with care. If you keep that in mind you will see that setting that example for our children and even our partners, then we are actually helping them live happier lives too. Hope that helps.
An important post that will help me and many other readers I am sure. I like that you give practical steps for us to work on. I blogged about learning to accept myself as good enough today and that is a huge move in my thinking and I think counts as self-love. We need to love ourselves and show our children how it is done so they can have happy lives too #ABloggingGoodTime
Such a lovely post and so true. We don’t self-love enough. That changes today – my audit is on it’s way! #ABloggingGoodTime
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